Family in Islam
Specialists in sexual education have affirmed the necessity of taking the children away from the sexual relations. Sir Pepsi says, â€œThe sexual sense is existent to every human being including babies to whom this state begins to gush after maturity. So, it is very much important to avoid any activity arousing this state before its proper time.
Some fathers undervalue the necessity of preventing the children from noticing them when they strip their clothes. Such fathers go to extremes in this regard, as they think of being intellectuals or progressists who should give us the opportunity to see them naked. As children frequently notice such manners, they will soon be paying great interest to the sexual characteristics in their minds.â€
8. Taking the children away from the ill-gotten food:
Fathers should provide legal-gotten foods to their children, and protect them against any food that the Lord has forbidden. The forbidden foods are the usurped, the real filthy things -such as pork-, the external filthy things -such as foods affected by external impurities-, and the like things that are detailed in the theses of the jurists. Fathers should exert all efforts for habituating their children to have legal food only since, as it has been proven through modern clinical surveys, the sources of nutrition leave a great influence on the behavior and maturity.
After the calamitous incident of Kerbala, Imam al-Husseinâ€™s harems were taken to Kufa as captives. As some people noticed that the accompanying children were starving, they gave them some fruits of date palm as alms. Ummu-Kulthoum, the Prophetâ€™s granddaughter, reproached the children and informed that it was forbidden for the Prophetâ€™s household to receive alms. Immediately, the children took the fruits out of their mouths.
As the Prophetâ€™s household kept up this illuminative behavior in the educational fields, they produced those unprecedented and unparalleled young men and women who formed the greatest exemplars in veracity, chastity, and decency.
Mothers are the headmost schools of structuring the childrenâ€™s personalities, and supplying them with the noble traits. Polite and courteous mothers produce virtuous generation. Decadence and lewdness are the outcome of the generations that are brought up by impolite mothers.
On mothersâ€™ shoulders lie great social liabilities. They are responsible for the nationsâ€™ future, honesty, and progress. They are the origin brick in the building of the educational entity. They also bear the most momentous aspects of the education of children since they are the builders of the bases of the childrenâ€™s tendencies and moralities through guiding to virtues, ambitions, progression, action, and self-reliance.
It is very much difficult to change totally the matters that the children acquire before their eighth year of age. So, those matters influence greatly the society and peoplesâ€™ lives and maturity. It is so natural that a child --when brought up on ambition, progression, activity, and diligence- will positively add strong pillars to the nation for achieving the required deeds and structuring propitious civilization.
Mothers enjoy some motives for helping in the childrenâ€™s custody and education:
Careful tutelage should be focused on daughters and their affairs so that they will not be polluted by the libertine conventions that, unfortunately, found their way to our Islamic societies, and invaded our peopleâ€™s intellective and doctrinal lives. Daughters are usually more obedient -to their mothers- than sons.