Family in Islam
4. Avoidance of Obscene Language:
Fathers, as paterfamiliases, are in charge of constituting the educational entity of their families. They should avoid obscene language, vulgarity, and any matter that injures the general manners. Chastity and homogeneity should find a considerable place in every house. It is obligatory upon fathers, whose words and deeds penetrate the hearts of their sons who are influenced by their manners and morals, to shield the family members from evil and obscene language. Children who notice their parentsâ€™ ill deeds can never have sound education and growth up. Similarly, children who notice their fathers say false things will never comply with their instructions of truth and sincerity. They pursue their fathersâ€™ deeds and actions. On that account, fathers must apply the noble traits and manners to their lives to be good exemplars for their family members.
5. Supervising the Sonsâ€™ Behaviors:
In most cases of the ethical crimes that are committed by juveniles, the source is heeded to be the fathersâ€™ negligence of superintending their sons and discounting the signals of aberrance they show. Naturally, children whose conscience and mind are imperfect cannot distinguish between good and evil. As children notice that no problem or reproach occurred owing to their doing a bad deed, they will certainly keep up doing it habitually.
This terrible negligence led to the youngâ€™s deviation and moral degradation. Violence and irregularity have become the nature of most young menâ€™s behaviors and morals.
Fathers are liable -before God- for supervising their sonsâ€™ behavior and turning them aside from all of the evil tendencies. Al-Ghezali says, â€œOpting for certain methods of educating is one of the most significant and considerable tasks. A child is his fatherâ€™s trust. His stainless heart is a precious gem that is clear from any image or picture. It is becoming to receive any image and follow any way. If a child is inured to good, this will stick to his mind, and the pleasure of this world and the Hereafter will be amassed for him. Parents, tutors, and trainers of children have a share in his rewards. Inversely, if a child is inured to evil, and neglected like animals, nonsuccess and loss will be the result. The guardian will undergo the sin of misguidance.
God the Exalted says:
Fathers should avoid inuring their children to luxurious living, otherwise the sons will spend their lives looking for such things, and this will definitely cause damage. Fathersâ€™ supervision should be initiated with the childrenâ€™s early years. It is also essential for fathers to choose chaste and religious wet nurses and nursemaids. Womenâ€™s milk is unblessed unless it is produced from legal earnings. Children who are brought up on such illegitimate food will tend to evil and illegal matters.â€
Fathers should take initiative in disciplining their children as soon as they notice a behavioral irregularity or any offense that contradicts the religious and social traditions as well as the general manners. Precipitation in disciplining the wrong children is a sufficient means for removing evil and rebellious spirits. Islam has confirmed this matter. The Prophet (s) said, â€œDiscipline your children.
This is better for you than a daily giving of a big sum of alms.â€ He also said, â€œIf you honor and discipline your children aptly, God will forgive you.â€
7. Taking the children away from the sexual activities: