Family in Islam
Fathersâ€™ custody, affection, and charity to sons are the most consequential constituents of the educational entity that consummates the childrenâ€™s personal affluence and spares the mental complexities that are the most serious diseases. Modern educational surveys have proved that good citizens and virtuous scientists are mostly the outcome of the careful families. Psychologists have asserted this fact, too. Conversely, the sons that are unwelcomed and disregarded by their families take aggressive paths and seem to be negative, quarreling, and rebellious, and invent skillful trickeries for disturbing the adults. Besides, they tend to criminal behavior.
- The aspects of the family negligence are as follows:
Fathers should cover their sons with equal amounts of love, affection, and custody. Many psychological complexities, jealousy, fury, and the arising of mental passive revolts may occur to the children who notice any distinction in the fathersâ€™ conservation. These effects may lead to serious psychological ailments.
Equality among sons is one of the components of the Islamic education. Fathers should never distinguish between brothers. Fathers who address charity and benevolence at certain sons exclusively, or give the heritage exclusively to the sons and neglect the daughters, are definitely out of the circle of Islam. Such procedures arouse hostility and hatred among the brothers and cause retardation in their educational entity, and mental disorder and slowdown in the social relations. It is proven that the sons that are deprived of paternal affection and benevolence are stroke by psychological complexities, social antagonism, and severe conduct. Fabrication, larceny, cruelty, evildoing, and assaulting deeds are the effects of the children that lack paternal affection.
Fathers must cover their family members, especially spouses, with cordiality, affection, and benevolence, and meet their needs entirely. God has instituted this as one of the wivesâ€™ rights. It also contributes in the childrenâ€™s prudent education and personal contentment that live in aspects that are filled with love, affection, peace, and settlement. Islam has urged on caring for wives. The Prophet (s) said, â€œThe best of you are the best to their wife. I am the best to my wives.â€ He also said, â€œWives are the husbandsâ€™ delight. Almighty God favors those who deal with their delight in the best way.â€ Imam al-Baqir (a) says, â€œMay Godâ€™s mercy be upon those who enjoy good relations with their wives. Allah the Exalted gave men the wives in possession and made them their custodians.â€ Imam as-Sadiq (a) says, â€œFear God while you deal with the two weak; women and slaves.â€
Fathers ought not to displease or wrong their wives. The Prophet (s) says, â€œThe best men of my nation are those who do not encroach or wrong their wives and those who treat them kindly.â€
He then recited Godâ€™s saying:
Men are the maintainers of women because Allah has made some of them to excel others.