The Religion Of The Ignorant
Next the families begin to meet. This is a kind of shopping trip. The girl's family calculate what they will receive in return for herâ€”if this not directly in the form of money, it may take the form of prestige, a house or furniture.
Once the decision has been taken, preparations for the engagement begin. Presents are purchased for the girl. The engagement is organized by her family, who expect a magnificent wedding in return. It's decided in advance how much money each side will spend. A full division of costs is worked out. It is decided which side will pay for what, right down to the drinks. Even if the family's financial situation is not strong enough to meet all its expenses, the family will borrow or sell something in order to discharge its obligation. It is very important at this time not to lose face in front of the others, or to give the impression that either one has no money.
Those close to the two sides keenly await the engagement party, when they will be able to eat and drink for free. On the other hand, they also face the problem of buying presents for the bride and groom. How can they get away with the cheapest gift? Those who have something to gain from the couple buy the most expensive gifts, and behave like close family friends.
When one looks at Ignorantist wedding ceremonies, one can observe concern for the deceptive baubles of this world and the sickness of seeking approval of others at the very highest levels. The main objective in staging ostentatious engagement and wedding parties is to put on a show for others. For example, all the neighbors are invited to the opening of the wedding trousseau. The guests then stage exaggerated reactions of how much they like everything. But when they return to their own homes, they generally talk about how poor and useless the objects actually were.
The Wedding Psychology
There are a number of turning points to which members of the Religion of the Ignorant attach great importance. Weddings are one of these. So important are weddings, especially to women, that they imagine that when that day comes, all their dreams will come true. The fact is though, that for many people, their wedding day is most problematic and distressing, because weddings often turn into nightmares due to the tension and lack of submission to destiny.
Not only are the bride and groom and their families calculating their own benefits, but the guests are all calculating their own interests, too. Engagement and wedding parties are ideal occasions for families to find prospective spouses for their own children. They therefore dress their sons and daughters as lavishly as possible and take them along to these events.
Emotional speeches are made at weddings. Some people weep for no reason. Even they themselves do not know why they are crying. Those closest to the family and the elderly weep the most, never forgetting to mention how they personally raised the bride or groom.
The bride's dress and hair preparations begin early in the morning. The hairdresser's bill will be excessive. Everyone is full of joy and generosity on that day. The bride's family tip the hairdresser and his staff with a generosity hitherto unseen, and seek to appear aristocratic and wealthy. On that day, everyone behaves like a professional-events organizer. They shower orders and money right and left. The mother distributes money to everyone for all sorts of things, necessary or otherwise, and the father makes a scene because of that. During this time, people frequently withdraw into corners to weep.
Then it is time for the photographs. People sit down before the photographer in front of a cloth background with pictures of clouds on it, in tones of red, blue and white. The groom poses next to the bride. Photographs are then taken, in which insincerity is written plain for all to see. These photographs will later be brought out to be shown to others for a whole lifetimeâ€”which is indeed the reason for having them taken in the first place. Everyone has to see the kind of wedding the bride had and what kind of dress she wore, and how impressive the groom looked.